Divorce in Oregon with Child

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Getting a divorce in Oregon with child (or children)?  A divorce is approximately twice as challenging and complex (emotionally, financially, and logistically) when there are children from the marriage. Read below for some of the most helpful resources.

Custody in Oregon

In Oregon, legal custody is distinct from the parenting time schedule, or where a child primarily lives. Legal custody in Oregon defines who is legally responsible and entitled to make the major decisions for the kids, including health care, education, and religious training.

The AFCC website has great resources about custody, custody evaluations and parenting plans.

Oregon Child Support and Expenses

Divorcing parents with minor children are required to use the Oregon child support calculator and abide by the results unless there is a qualified reason to divert from the calculated support amount. The inputs include each parent’s gross monthly incomes, parenting time, health insurance costs and childcare expenses. In addition to child support, a mediator or attorneys can assist divorcing parents in establishing agreements for sharing expenses for school and extra-curricular activities, un-reimbursable health care costs, and other child-related expenses.

Parenting with your Ex (Co-Parenting)

Divorce with Kids in Oregon: Parenting Schedule Guides

Explore age-based considerations and examples of parenting schedules with Oregon’s Parenting Plan Guide. If your child is 3 and under, explore parenting time schedules and considerations for babies and toddlers.

While many parents use google docs or other on-line calendars to coordinate parenting schedules and medical appointments, another popular app is Our Family Wizard.

Conflict and Communication

Read the best tips for how to protect your children from the effects of divorce.

A divorce in Oregon with child requires each parent will be required to participate in their county’s parent education class, aimed at helping protect kids from parental conflict. Some counties have simultaneous classes for children. The class coordinators are also a good resource for local adult and child-oriented “divorce coping / support” groups.

Read the Children’s Bill of Rights in a Divorce. Consider printing it out and committing to it.

The best books on the subject (in my opinion):

  • Mom’s House, Dad’s House by Isolini Ricci
  • Joint Custody with a Jerk by Judy Corcoran and Julie A. Ross
  • The Co-Parents’ Handbook: Raising Well-Adjusted, Resilient, and Resourceful Kids in a Two-Home Family from Little Ones to Young Adults by Karen Bonnell and Kristin Little
  • The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You’re Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate by Harriet Lerner
  • Relationship Help: The Relationship Repair Game –  A 78-card toolkit for transforming conflict, with inspiring original artwork.

Helping Kids Cope with Divorce

Check out this comprehensive Co-Parenting Parenting Guide: Helping Children Cope with Divorce

How to Talk with Your Children About Divorce

Meeting the Needs of Children through a Divorce

Best book for parents:  Dinosaurs Divorce: A Guide for Changing Families, by Laurie Krasny Brown and Marc Brown

Best book to read along book: It’s Not your Fault, Koko Bear by Vicki Lansky